“The way we choose to see the world creates the world we see.” -Barry Neil Kaufman

For years I was blind. Until one day in late July 2001 when the temperature was 118 degrees in Phoenix and my temperature was well above that. I was angry and it was hot. And I had just locked my keys in my car at ASU West and even DPS could not “pop the lock” on my car.  So I had to walk ALL THE WAY OVER to the bus stop to ride the bus home to get my other set of keys. It was all of about 200 yards. As I angrily walked in the heat pouting about my keys, feeling self-pity about how busy I was I saw a man sitting at the bus stop. As I approached I could see that he had a white-tipped cane used by people who are without eyesight. I really didn’t want to be bothered because I was angry and feeling sorry for myself so I said hello and stayed to the side. He asked, “Can you do me a favor?” I thought “oh great” but said okay. He asked if I could describe the trees and the sky to him because he had lost his eyes when he was 5 because of a disease.  He said that he always remembers how beautiful the trees and sky were and likes to get other people’s descriptions. So I described. The desert trees and landscapes were various colors and all bore their own beauty. The sky had high clouds but was otherwise blue and clear. He said that many people have 20/20 vision but are blinder than he is because they do not appreciate the gift of sight and its’ ability to see natural beauty.  He told me to always appreciate my sight and the gift to see all things beautiful. My mood changed immediately and I began to make it a daily point to appreciate my gift of sight and the ability to see beauty. I did it today when I went for a run/walk with my dog. It was hot this morning and my feet hurt. I did not “see” that though. I saw the beauty of the trees, birds enjoying a cool bird bath and my dog Zeus’ look of unconditional love toward me. I saw all of my abilities, the beauty of the lake that I walked past, and how great it was to be able to exercise because some cannot. I saw how lucky I am to have so much love in my life, a business that I enjoy doing, and all of the other gifts that I am so richly blessed with. Most of us have chosen to be where we are at in life. We have chosen to lock our keys in our cars, live in the heat or cold, who we love and how busy we are. We also choose the way we see everything. I am asking you like the blind man asked me to see the beauty in ALL things. Do not be blind any longer! Start today. Be your own miracle!


Light in the Dark


I am heart sick tonight.


Not because of the election.

Not because there’s a rumor that Drake and T. Swift are dating.

But because of a piece of news I heard just the other night.

Over the weekend, at my cousin’s university, there was a tragedy. His roommate: a kind, loving, and incredibly smart young man, passed away after being the victim of a hate crime.

For being Muslim.

He was jumped and ended up in a coma. He passed a day later.

How truly tragic.

I did not know this young man, but my cousin was his best friend and roommate. And it just pains my heart to think that someone could act out in hate towards another person like that.

There’s a lot of rhetoric going around lately about immigrants and muslims and walls and whatnot. It’s nauseatingly pervasive.

And to be quite honest, I don’t exactly know 

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There is a long running joke at the gym among the clients that everyone must agree with me, laugh at my jokes, and like my singing or they will have to do extra squats, push-ups, and listen to me sing louder. Since most of my clients understand the value of boundaries and are empowered to communicate with me openly, most of the time the extra push-up idea and listening to me sing never happens and often ends up in a “whatever” or “be quiet.” And although we keep it light, welcoming, and fun we still get a lot of work done and collaborate together to discover our own personal journey of health and lifestyle modification.

My Way or the Highway

Having a Master’s Degree in Counseling and working as a therapist for a while helped me to see things through other people’s eyes. I understand how powerful the brain is when we get “locked into” unhealthy behaviors and how essential it is to deal with life in a healthy way for our own happiness. I have learned as a fitness trainer theories, fitness routines, and exercise form. I have learned through life experience, my parents, and hard knocks that there is more than one way to do things and to respect others. I see way too many trainers and therapists struggling to grasp the last one. I love my counseling family and fitness teacher friends but so many more people could be helped if we just let go of our ego. I and many of those who I love have suffered due to someone who is paid to help us having a closed mind, being ego or money driven, and uneducated in other methods. While there are certain things that have a high success rate for some, there are still others where those same techniques would drive them away from the help they need. They are not wrong, stupid, or dysfunctional for not fitting into some predetermined way of being a human. And they need help too.  Please meet each person where they are at individually and educate yourself on how to use different methods to help the person you serve. It may save a life. BE YOUR OWN MIRACLE!