Me, Myself, and I!
For the first 35 years of my life I made the most unhealthy lifestyle choices possible. I drank too much, smoked too much, ate terribly, and was often self-centered and inauthentic. I grew to a weight of 340 lbs., felt lost and showed it through the way that I interacted with myself and others. I often blamed my family history, town, coaches, people at church, and teachers for the way I acted at 35. And although our upbringing does play a major role in the way we cope with life, our belief systems, who we surround ourselves with, and even our health practices, at some point it is our decision 100% to be where we are at. As it was mine and still is today. If you know anything about behavior or lifestyle change you know that it is a difficult task if you have been practicing the behaviors for a while. To put it simply, the brain and body “lock in” to the way we deal with life, our belief systems, coping skills, and lifestyle choices as we develop. These hardwired and “locked in” belief systems and behaviors are difficult to overcome for many. But not impossible. To begin to be healthy physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually we must take full responsibility for the way that we respond to life events the health choices that go along with it. It doesn’t matter what our spouse, friend, co-worker, parent, dog or cat do. It only matters how we respond to what they do. A healthy approach is to respond to other people’s craziness (kidding) with calm, without attaching to it, and with the understanding that others are responding with a different brain, outlook, and history than you have. Give no responsibility for your happiness, sadness, success, or failure to others. Please eliminate any barriers that you place yourself in by blaming others. It is true freedom!
The One-Legged Cyclist
Yesterday I was driving down the road and saw a man riding a bicycle with only one leg. He was pedaling the bicycle at a good pace with his left foot and leg amputated just below the left knee. And with no prosthetic. He was literally pedaling with one foot and leg. He has barriers that he could have blamed others, felt sorry for himself about, and not ridden the bicycle. And although I do not know his motives, I do know that he took responsibility for getting to where he wanted to go, eliminated any barriers that he had with riding a bicycle, and pedaled. And he pedaled fast. I am asking you to get on your own bicycle today. Take full responsibility for your health choices, eliminate any barriers that you have in your mind, and pedal fast. Honor yourself and the ones you love by making good health choices, by taking full responsibility for everything in your life, and by loving YOURSELF and others through example, action, and non-judgment. Be the one who takes committed action to make great change. BE YOUR OWN MIRACLE!
Miracles of Phoenix Fitness Owner Coe Kirby combines evidence based behavioral health research with 12+ years as a personal trainer to provide the most extensive lifestyle modification program for mental and physical wellbeing in America. He has helped hundreds of people overcome self-defeating behaviors and achieve goals of all levels. His unique style and skill set as a personal trainer and life coach make him comfortable to be open with while pursuing the growth or change you desire. Knowing that each individual is different with where they are in the change process, he guides the client on a journey of self-discovery that helps the individual learn his or her own method to success while giving strong support and proven tools to assist them. His two books, Your Health is Your Wealth: Working Out the Inner Self For a Fit Outer Self and Rebuilding Your Temple From the Inside Out have helped people from all walks of life learn how to create healthier lifestyles for themselves and their families. Both books are available through http://www.miraclesofphoenixfitness.com. Good luck on your health journey!